5 Things that Affect Relationship; how to Avoid them

If you care about your relationships, you need to know the things that affect relationship in order to avoid them in future to save your relationships.

Building a relationship and seeing the spark alive in the first few days is easy and effortless because it is completely an automatic drive and all the love hormones are at their peaks.

The reality is that it is a 50,50 responsibility of both sides to keep the light glowing. When there come differences, arguments, disagreements and misunderstandings the whole thing is shifted to a more difficult level.

Here are the top 5 things that affect relationship and fortunately, you can avoid it by some conscious efforts.

Bad beliefs

The problem is not with myths and bad beliefs but with people who are readily accepting them.

Ali Khan

It is sad to say that there are many bad beliefs and myths in our society and the problem is that people are readily welcoming them into their lives.

Some people have built their own beliefs based on their bad past experiences which have no relation with reality. Some common beliefs to avoid are:

• No one cares about your feelings
• People will laugh at you if you express your feelings
• Money can overpower love
• You can buy love
• People react in the opposite way, so love is replied by hate.
• Selfish people live happily

These are just some examples of common bad beliefs in our society, affecting many of our brothers and sisters.

Try to avoid these baseless things. Believe in goodness. Have a motto of “do good and have good” without any expectations from anyone.

Frequent arguments

A fish with its mouth closed will never get caught.

In a relationship, arguments are not that bad and have their own importance; help in understanding differences and choices.

But the goal is try to keep the arguments in a limit. Arguing on every single day diminishes the spark and build up a great distance.

Frequent arguments are included in the things that affect relationship.

Looking at the basis, we get to know that arguments arise from differences. So to avoid arguments, the key is to understand the differences and accept them as they are. Remember that 100% coherence between two partners is not important for a relationship to work. Just respect the differences and accept them.

Learn more: how to avoid arguments

Less understanding

Mutual understanding between two partners helps build a mental connection and is necessary for a smooth and glowing relationship.

Understanding moods, anger, sadness and triggers of each other can ensure the happiness of relationship.

As it is mentioned above that all relationships work at 50-50 principle so understanding is also a kind of “mutual” thing. When there is a fair mutual understanding between two partners, one can actually help the other stay calm when stalks are high.

If you are going to judge them, make sure that you have walked in their shoes. Everyone has a different journey and so do responsibilities.

Mutual understanding helps avoid arguments and keeps a peaceful environment so that the spark keeps glowing.

Social media

Social media and internet have affected the relationships very badly. Social media is a double edged sword.

If we use it wisely, it has its own benefits but its immature usage has affected many lives and relationship. The problem with social media is that it is a never ending thing and so it is a “BIG TIME EATER“.

On the other hand, it should be admitted that every relationship needs a regular time to be sustained, nourished and developed from both sides.

So if you are using social media for its benefits, keep in mind the harms it can bring to you and your relationship. Turn off the social media when entering home. Have specific time for the family.

Never ever let the social media and internet interfere with your inner peace and affect your relationships.

Fixed mindset

Fixed mindset is a trap where stagnancy is appreciated and growth is refused.

It is a broad concept but in short, it is defined as “a mindset with a belief that everything is fixed and cannot be developed or changed for goodness”.
Fixed mindset is a major problem and can affect many corners of your life but here, we are only discussing its harms in relationship.

In relationship, when a fixed mindset faces a problem, it seems fixed, permanent and unsolvable.

So the matter keeps going to a bad side and end up with harmful results. The good news is that fixed mindset can be shifted to growth mindset. With that, the belief of development and change is installed into mind.

When you shift to growth mindset, every problem, every difference and every misunderstanding can be easily solved because you will firmly believe that you can develop this whole thing, you can compromise so that this problem is eliminated and you can take good steps for further improving your understanding and deepen your bond.

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